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You are the Church in Your Home
Excerpts from Follow the Way of Love

A Pastoral Message of the U.S. Catholic Bishops to Families
On the Occasion of the United Nations 1994 International Year of the Family

A family is our first community and the most basic way in which the Lord gathers us, forms us, and acts in the world. The early Church expressed this truth by calling the Christian family a domestic church or church of the home.

As families, you carry out the mission of the church of the home in ordinary ways when:

You believe in God and that God cares about you, in good times and bad.

You love and value others. Children form a picture of God from the love they experience among their relatives and godparents.

You foster intimacy. To share oneself and be accepted with a family is indispensable to forming a close relationship with the Lord.

You evangelize by processing faith in God, acting in accord with gospel values and setting an example of Christian living for your children and for others.

You educate, especially by example. Sometimes children listen and learn; sometimes they teach you. Your wisdom and theirs come from the same Spirit.

You pray together, thanking God for blessing, reaching for truth, asking for guidance in crisis and doubt.

You serve one another, sacrificing your own wants for the other's good. Your "deaths" and "risings" become compelling signs of Jesus' own life, death and resurrection.

You forgive and seek reconciliation. When you do so, family members come to believe that, no matter what, they are still loved by you and by God.

You celebrate life, whether for births, weddings, birthdays, deaths, first days of school or graduations, new jobs, old friends, family reunions, surprise visits, holy days and holidays. You gather together when tragedy strikes or in celebration of the sacraments. As you gather for a meal, you break bread and share stories, becoming more fully the community of love Jesus calls us to be.

You welcome the stranger, the lonely one, and the grieving person into your home. You give a drink to the thirsty and food to the hungry. The gospel assures us that when we do this; they are strangers no more, but Christ.

You act justly in your community when you treat others with respect, stand against discrimination and racism, and work to overcome hunger, poverty, homelessness, and illiteracy.

You affirm life as a precious gift from God. You oppose whatever destroys life, such as abortion, euthanasia, unjust wars, capital punishment, domestic violence, poverty and racism. Within your families, you make peace.

You encourage vocations of priesthood and religious life. This is especially fostered through family prayer, involvement in parish life, and by the way you speak of priests, sisters, brothers and permanent deacons.

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